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  • rebecca 5:30 am on January 9, 2012 Permalink | Reply  

    When given an opportunity to love 

    We wonder if we are worthy of love or will love ever find us. We may punish ourselves for the mistakes we’ve made in our past relationships, and wish we had an opportunity to do it over again. God gives us opportunities each day to embrace love, show love and receive love. Passing a smile to someone walking by, or giving a compliment to another. Buying a cup of coffee for a co-worker or sharing a hug with someone. Listening to the birds singing at sunrise or a maybe watching a sunset at dusk. These are many opportunities to experience the exchange of love.  Or next time, share an “I love you” with someone you love.

     

    • Christy 5:50 am on January 9, 2012 Permalink | Reply

      Thank you for this post today. It is so true! I was in the grocery store today feeling melancholy and this lovely elderly gentleman was blocking the BBQ sauce with his cart and I stopped near him but for the breads. He so sweetly apologized for being in the way and I said with a big smile, “oh you are just fine don’t worry.” he responded by saying thatbwas the nicest thing anyone had said to him today and as he smiled back at me he added and yesterday. I replied it I was happy I was able to say it then.

    • rebecca 6:10 am on January 9, 2012 Permalink | Reply

      You are so very welcome. It’s wonderful to allow another the experience of joy from our simple graciousness or gratitude. The elderly gentleman probably smiled for some time from your exchange near the BBQ sauce. I bet on his next visit to the market, he’s hanging around the BBQ sauce. ;-)

  • rebecca 4:51 pm on November 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply  

    Often times we are held back in life… 

    Often times, we are held back in life by something unseen, unaware of the roadblock in our lives. This “thing” that feels like an invisible cement wall is hindering our view, our perception, our reality, our path and most importantly, our happiness. It’s planted root and becomes larger each day, somehow enabling a feeling of safety, while we watch life pass us by.

    It appears through excuses, hesitation, argument, resistance, broken relationships, lack of intimacy, unhappiness, and the list goes on…  Is something hold you back from speaking your mind, telling your boss what you really think, doing what you love, or even better, fully giving yourself to the person you love?

    The only way to eliminate fear is to walk through the smog and trust the process. To acknowledge it and know that walking though the door of the unknown, is far more rewarding, than playing it safe.  Watching your true happiness skate by slowly kills our spirit because we choose not to take a risk. With risk offers an opportunity for change, an opportunity for growth and true happiness. What are you willing to risk today?

     

     

     

  • rebecca 4:05 am on October 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply  

    A client wrote: Dear Rebecca, I’m having difficulty in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have had some issues over the last year. He’s not the best communicator and I sometimes try to force the issue, in hopes we can talk. Every time I want to speak to him about our relationship, he pretty much evades the subject. I’m always left guessing.

    In love and confused.

     

    • rebecca 4:52 am on October 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Dear In love and confused,

      You are not alone. When love is mutual, it is a power beyond measure! We have the ability to convince ourselves we are in love, when we simply, just want to be loved.

      When we are in love, we are exposing our soul. When we are loved back, it’s an acknowledgement of our love (Thich Naht Hahn). What if I told you, we teach people how to treat us? Yes, we also teach men how to treat us. You might ask, how? Well, by allowing certain behavior in our lives. The very first time we allow behavior that makes us feel sad, inadequate, alone, shameful, etc.. simply enables it to continue. It only ends when we respect ourselves enough, naturally eliminating behavior that does not serve our spirit. This raises our internal vibration, attracting like minded people.

      My suggestion; shift your mindset. Rather than trying to approach your boyfriend every time you need to speak. Take responsibility for yourself, share your thoughts and feelings, acknowledge your heart and LISTEN to your inner voice. Share without blame and own every word that you speak. It’s only then, when we sit in own our truth, that the door begins to open….all you need to do is walk through. When love is mutual and unconditional, your journey will be together.

      Try this mantra by Thich Naht Hahn:
      “Dear one, I am truly here for you”.
      Repeat in a state of meditation for 10-15 minutes, which joins body, mind and spirit. This opens the pathway of love in your heart, keeping the flow of energy in your spirit.

      Rebecca

    • Stacy 8:00 pm on October 16, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Dear Rebecca,
      I feel so much turmoil in my life right now. I’m having this problem with a friend who has come in and out of my life over the years and I realized, I don’t think I trust her. There’s this feeling inside of me I just can’t shake. It doesn’t feel good to be around her. When I spoke with her about my concerns, she made me feel like she’d do anything for our friendship, and reminded me how much she’s done for me. Well, yeh, we did things for each other, and I always thanked her. I’ve always praised her, told her when I disagreed, and encouraged her to pursue bigger, better things in life. I never spoke about her behind her back, or tried to use her words as mine. Just recently, someone who doesn’t know what I’m feeling or the situation, told me about this “idea” my “friend” shared with her. It was MY IDEA!!! I shared this idea with my “friend” a few months ago, that I thought of 3 years ago, and NOW she’s actually told people she “came up with this idea”! How would this person know about this idea because I never told her. I was really careful who I shared my idea with and now she has the scruples to say it’s hers. What kind of a friend does that? That’s really devious and I’m not sure what to do. Do I confront her?
      Please help.

      Stacy

      • Sena 2:30 pm on October 19, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Dear Stacy,
        I have compassion for what you are going through I myself have gone through this with a friend. It is many layers, like an onion. So let’s address each layer. First, the feeling you have regarding her needs to honored and respected. There is a reason why you don’t feel good around her. You should not feel bad for this. Accept this feeling without judgement. It is important to allow your higher self to have a voice in your life. We are too quick to dismiss a feeling without honoring it.
        Secondly, when we enter into discussions about what we have done for one another it is a symptom of one or both are feeling unappreciated and fearful. When you friend felt the need to tell you what she has done for you she is operating from a space of fear verses love. Give some thought why would she be operating from this space. You may find the answers you are looking for there. As far as her stealing your idea, again she doesn’t believe in herself enough to come to you and ask permission to share in your idea. Be careful to not allow others to move you out of operating from a space of love and understanding. You need to remain in this space in order to honor your higher self. Be careful to not allow others actions to define your own actions. Confronting her from a space of love can be a beautiful action but confronting her because your ego is bruised can turn into ugly real quick.
        Create a space for your own healing by asking yourself what it is that really bothers you. Address that within yourself first. This will help you understand your own emotions about the situation as a whole. You may decide to gracefully move this person up and out of your life. Sending love and light to you as you move through this process.

        • rebecca 7:39 pm on October 19, 2011 Permalink

          Dear Stacy, I agree with Sena. I also understand what you are going through. it’s important to break it down into smaller pieces or as Sena says;”an onion”.

          Remember, people who do things hurtful are most likely coming from a place of fear. Fear takes on it’s own life force! They may not even be aware of this themselves. It typically has nothing to do with us directly.

          Please share with us your experience and how you are coming along.

  • rebecca 7:00 pm on September 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply  

    Perspective is relative. The way we rationalize a situation to make it “alright” is based on our own reality. If our reality is skewed, our perception is skewed. If one operates from a place of manipulation, it is a form of weakness, control and fear. If one must manipulate, they are fearful. What are they fearful of? Maybe exposure. What does it create? A momentary distraction away from the REAL situation or issue.

    “White lies” are FEAR based. The truth one chooses not to see, disclose or surrender to is FEAR based. However, TRUTH will ALWAYS unfold at the perfect time in our lives. It’s the way of the Universe. TFH.

     

    • Sena 3:19 pm on September 29, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Most of the time a person does not recognize how they are trying to manipulate a situation or person. Think of the two year who wants to get their own way by throwing a temper tantrum then is rewarded for their behavior because the Mom gives in. Now the two year is grown and cannot throw temper tantrum’s because society will not accept that behavior so a person then moves to a more sophisticated behavior that is equally rewarded.

      Now the question becomes how do we make ourselves aware of our own behavior?

      • rebecca 4:59 am on October 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Self awareness is the most challenging of all! When we self reflect and choose to walk a higher path, we begin to raise our own awareness of certain self sabotaging behavior. Shifting out of entitlement moves us in a path of self awareness.

  • rebecca 6:55 pm on September 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply  

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  • rebecca 8:20 pm on August 6, 2009 Permalink | Reply  

    Love, Sex, Intimacy 

    Without opening your heart and mind.  Your experience of Love, Sex and Intimacy feel empty.  Without letting go of the past, forgiving yourself for your own mistakes, or forgiving another for theirs, prevents a fulfilling experience in life. Holding back from another because of fear of rejection limits your experience and exchange of an authentic relationship.  

    You have the choice to hang on to old patterns and fears keeping you prisoner of your own reality.  Or, you can choose to let go of fear and live authentically right now.

     

  • rebecca 7:02 am on August 1, 2009 Permalink | Reply  

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